The difficulty on a scale of 1 to 10: 1,000,000,000-that's how difficult it is. What? You think I don't what I'm talking about?!
Well, you are wrong. I SO know what I'm talking about because I've been there/done that! I can't count the amount of dates I've
been on. Included in those dates are the well known "blind dates" and "online dating".It's strange that I'm not cynical about it all yet either. I'm still hopeful that there is someone out there that could make me really happy...I just haven't met him yet. I get frustrated sometimes but I'm not about to give up. I refuse to give up in fact. Cause, that is the wussy way out. And, I'm not about to let people say to me, "poor Camille, she didn't have what it took".
I think the hardest part about being single still is knowing that each year a few of my friends get married and separate themselves from me. I understand that they are moving on to bigger and better things but do they have to leave their single friends behind? Do I really have to be ostracized in that matter? I thought I was a loner 4 years ago when I graduated high school...but, when my friends get married I become even more of a loner because that means I have one less friend to hang out with. True, I could make new friends but that would mean being friends with the less mature younger people. That's an interesting way of putting it I guess. I just mean to say, why can't my old friends still hang out with me after they're married. Does being married make them in a different social standing and therefore better than me???
Anyways, back to my main theme: dating. It has many expectations that follow it. And why should't it? The purpose of a date is to weed out all of those people you want to avoid. Dare I say; the less attractive, the loud, obnoxious, quirky, ill-mannered, and otherwise rude human beings with which you know you could never live the rest of your life.
It's a game of chance...no matter how many people would disagree. There is no way of knowing that your sweet heart in high school will make it to the final round of Marriage 101. Or if the blind date your friend set you up on will really work out-more likely than not...it won't. (FYI-It's best not to invest your heart into someone you have never met....yet again, from my experience...haha).
So, my point of it all is....dating is tiring, relentless for some, and maybe annoying.
Solution: Put up with it. If you want to find that special someone...it's no use fighting the system or in other words crying over spilled milk. There are certain things in life we have to go through that are mundane and unpleasant but ultimately can result in joy! Ok, now I just sound silly. But seriously, so many people I know refuse to make a whole-hearted attempt at a date and
no wonder they are still single.I guess this just sounds like a soap-box journal entry now but wait-You're right! That's what this blog stuff is for. And, if you have made it this far into the post...you fell for it. I'm no expert, just a victim of the insane world of dating and never-ending search for true love. What is true love? How should I know? I've never gotten that far. When I get there...i'll tell you. This is Camille, signing off. And...I have to go get ready for a date. haha.
6 comments:
oh camille! and here i thought that I was the one being left out because i AM married! i feel like none of my single friends want to hang out with me anymore!
ahhh, camille camille. don't you know that you are still so young? our "culture" is peculiar in the fact that we all get married ridiculously young compared to the the rest of society! what your friend Lindsey says is true. either way you feel lonely at one point- its lonely to be single, its lonely to be married, its lonely to be a stay at home mom too! don't sweat it, I have many people I would like to set you up on "blind dates" with, heh heh. and they do work- that's how I got Kevin :)
I agree with both comments made! But, I was talking to Abilehi about your post and she reminded me that a lot of your close friends are married. I would probably feel the same as you. Just remember that all your married friends still want to hang out, it's just hard to find schedules that don't conflict. You're busy and I'm busy as well as many others I assume.
My solution: Move away. Seriously, get out of Mesa. Flagstaff was the number one absolutely best thing that ever happened to me. There were pretty much zero guys up here so we all just focused on having a good time. And right when I was happy single, BAM John walked in to my life. So get out and find some adventure big enough that dating becomes a low priority.
Don't be sad Camille. Dating is fun. When you get to be Christin's age, maybe not as much. But right now, yes. And dating is not to find out who you want to avoid! You know if they're "less-attractive", "loud", or "obnoxious" usually before you go out. It's to find, in the words of Tim Meadows in The Ladies Man, the person "that makes everything you enjoy in life that much better." Because honestly, kissing or cuddling by yourself just isn't that much fun.
And Candice, well, it's probably good that our culture pushes us some to get married. Life is better when you aren't completely alone. And if you want to get naked with someone else, it will finally be okay :)
Ha ha.
And last. Dating doesn't need to be the central point of your life, but it has to be a priority. Why do you think there are so many single older guys in the church?! Because they are too busy having fun! Whew. That was a long response. But I'm just so excited to have found your blog.
K- Christin's turn. Dating IS still fun. Dang you Brad-o. But, as much as it terrifies me to write this, usually the best relationships I've had started with a kiss we couldn't resist and then we started hanging out afterwards. If a date is in any way uncomfortable, it's not going to work.
And this. If you would like someone to be around you 24/7 for about 4 days, that's a great sign. If after about 4 hours, you're done for the day- get out. Don't force the thing, sister.
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